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Agreed, I thought the same the first time I saw footage of him playing it. Sounds even better!
Hey friend. My ex-step mom... (a bit of a misnomer because she married my dad when I was in my mid 20's) is only 3 or 4 years older than me, is a nice lady. We're still in touch even though my evil dad died almost 10 years ago. She's adopted and my dad (who worked for a think tank, RAND corporation for many years) did some things to help her find her birth parents and siblings. It was a mixed bag. Parents, not so happy. Siblings way more accepting. She knew it was a crap shoot, but mostly she got some idea why and also some genetic history she didn't have before. So now she' okay with what happened. I can sorta understand the wanting to know the genetic history. Having had abusive genetic parents (both) and knowing how horrible they both were, I have a different view of adoptive parents. Of course, not all adoptive parents are wonderful, either. It's a mixed bag. That music is in the family is a cool link!!I am adopted.
Found out who my bio parents are from Ancestry and that I have three full younger siblings.
None of them are on Ancestry. A gracious biocousin who is a dna match helped me figure it out.
My bio parents rudely declined contact with me, using belittling and demeaning language. I had requested contact in a respectful email and told them I would respect their wishes. I am thankful they confirmed it was them, though.
Still, out of respect for their “secret”, which they never told anyone about, I won’t contact my siblings, though I can see them on Fbook and would love to meet them. I look more like my one sister than my other sister and brother do!!
Been very self controlled about that for two years now but at some point, seeing as how we are all middle aged, I think they can handle it. But I don’t wanna be that guy that possibly throws a family into upheaval.
PS- my moms sister has come up as a match for me. I wonder if she is talking to bio mom about it or got wind of it somehow tested herself to verify.
PPS-my biouncle was a semi-pro bassist and my dad plays guitar!!!
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I did the ancestry thing and part of the report is identifying people who have a strong likelihood of being a relative. I reached out to several who were probably first cousins and told them my birth name and date/location of birth, etc. One wrote back and said he had a cousin who had the last name and if I wanted, he'd write to her and see if she wanted to respond. She did and we wrote back and forth filling out some history. Then she wrote and said, "you'd better be sitting down while you read this". She was my mother. She'd long prayed I had lived a good life, always sad that she hadn't known. We write regularly and I met her for a few hours. Plans were in the works to go out to California to visit (I'd even bought the tickets) when COVID hit. They just moved to Tennessee, so a road trip is happening soon. My brother lives a couple hours away so we keep in touch and see each other occasionally, and I've spoken to my sister a few times and we don't wait to meet in person. (she always wrote my name on her calendar on my birthday, but nobody knew what it was all about... My siblings say she has been much more at peace since finding me.
There is much more to being a parent than giving birth.
Terry, just noted a new avatar. You haven't shaved since the start of the pandemic, have you?Very interesting Thread going here. Hits way to close to home. I really appreciate those of you for being willing to share your personal stories.