Yeah, my buddy just gets carried away with making the guitar loud. He's excited!
. . . (Not for thirty years, thank Dog!) . . .
Tricky, this.So my friend and I know a thousand songs together, melodies and harmonies, what fun. We have been playing together for 30+ years.
But he bangs on his guitar...he just hammers that sucker on the downstroke.. I have not confronted him about it, I just endure it. He has a nice guitar too. It's just so much a part of his style that I don't want to burst his bubble.
In my opinion the sound needs to be coaxed from the guitar, not forced.
Advice? Other than playing all hard-charging songs, LOL.
100% agree!! After 30 years, I'd say your window of opportunity to effect change has probably closed. And even if you decide to address this problem, the risk of it offending is greater after 30 years. There are some good ideas about recording and then playing back and maybe pointing out his hammering, but that's just one method of many that could blow up and ruin a friendship. And after all these years, how's his hearing? Most of us experience diminished hearing as time marches on. Maybe he needs some help in that area? Yet another thing to consider. Tread cautiously.So....
I don't follow this at all. You have a good friend. You have been playing together for 30+ years. You have been having fun each time.
It sounds like you have been blessed with a great friendship, and a great playing partner, that many of us would envy.
And now you, 30 years on, you want to tell him you don't like the way he plays?
If it was me, I'd be happy we are still playing together after all these years, having fun and enjoying each other's company. I wouldn't say a word.
walrus
So....
I don't follow this at all. You have a good friend. You have been playing together for 30+ years. You have been having fun each time.
It sounds like you have been blessed with a great friendship, and a great playing partner, that many of us would envy.
And now you, 30 years on, you want to tell him you don't like the way he plays?
If it was me, I'd be happy we are still playing together after all these years, having fun and enjoying each other's company. I wouldn't say a word.
walrus
Dyslexics of the world, untie!Illiterate agnostic suffering of insomnia ?
So....
I don't follow this at all. You have a good friend. You have been playing together for 30+ years. You have been having fun each time.
It sounds like you have been blessed with a great friendship, and a great playing partner, that many of us would envy.
And now you, 30 years on, you want to tell him you don't like the way he plays?
If it was me, I'd be happy we are still playing together after all these years, having fun and enjoying each other's company. I wouldn't say a word.
walrus
No, but really....Dread, sounds like this dilemma with your friend is the same dilemma long term couples have been trying to figure out for centuries: how to deal with a significant other's warts.
My wife is the bass player. Believe me, I keep it all to myself. No use starting a war I'm not going to win.Dread, sounds like this dilemma with your friend is the same dilemma long term couples have been trying to figure out for centuries: how to deal with a significant other's warts.