Thx for taking the time to post.
It is still a fee free world, and we all reserve the right to make mistakes.
Forum life can get you up, or down, but remember it's not real. You can walk away, usually for the better personally.
Typing away on a forum is like cheating on your partner, ignoring life right in front of you for imaginary friends you know nothing about.
A great way to not cook when you should, burn food when you are, it's an escape. Dishes, lawnmowing, laundry - which I need to do right now - don't seem as easy or fun.
A Dopamine driven search for "likes" and acceptance, sometimes when your home life suffers, which could be suffering from "forum marriage". It's a bit of a chicken and egg thing.
Then there's the "buying guitars to be cool" factor that has probably brought many a forum member to near ruin, though to be honest, this same type of acceptance driven consumer behavior is prevalent on all forums where any tangible good can be shown off.
In military collector circles where I hung out in the past, it was not unusual for someone to buy dozens if not hundreds of absolutely the same award, albeit from different makers with slight variances, but all a sign of really advanced mental illness, like buying hundreds of copies of the same album, although an album is more useful and pleasurable than a WWII combat badge.
Each posting of a new items gets a few likes from the usual suspects, and you'll find that you will never measure up to the "big boys" in terms of popularity or wealth to endlessly buy to impress strangers, many times from across the globe.
I luckily found myself banned from there by taking part in humor allowed for some, but apparently not others.
I banned my own self from another guitar forum during the pandemic, the users were dull, mean, highly opinionated and also very ignorant so quite often wrong, and chances to help someone with an actual question was drowned in a sea of terrible advice and attitude. I could see posters struggling to get any decent advice, even three days after the original post, they were still looking for a reliable answer.
By page 3 of most topics, lots of snark/personal attacks where we used to have healthy veers, just a lot of negativity devolving into name calling and usually a mod popping up to say that warnings had been sent.
Not all forums are civilized as this one by a long shot.
On perhaps the biggest guitar forum of the all I found myself "banned for a week" but actually "banned for life" for taking part in a political discussion I never started, and apparently committed suicide by standing up for what is right, which can be a misnomer.
It was a great place to leave, the everyday sexism and racism was too much for me anyway.
I made it through the "week ban" only to find out it was "lifetime" but I could still go there to read posts - by not attempting a log in - and not being able to partake - the interactive Dopamine boost - I quickly realized how monstrously boring the posts were "Best song ever?" Best solo ever? "Beat Beatle song ever", "Why Blues suck", "Are tubes amps dead?", "Show us your collection", "Look at my new Strat (or PRS)" all garnering the usual comments and likes from fans or snark from internet personality conflict victims. Edit here for forgetting the biggest question of all time "Should I buy this guitar?" as if you needed the validation from total strangers to make a potentially costly and life altering decision.
In time I realized even the titles to the threads were boring, I couldn't even click on any and left the place forever.
Ultimately in life you can't please everyone, so just be yourself.
And try to "opt outside" more often.