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Currently in the valley...I need to offer a eulogy at one of my best friend's memorial service tomorrow. He had three strokes over the last year, and the latest one was too much for him to recover from. He was a great friend, and a great cook. I'm honored to be asked to do this and I have lots to say, hopefully I won't just stand up there and blubber my way through it. :(
 

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Dred, I am sorry for the loss of your friend. It's too much to take these days, I must say. It goes to show us that life is precious and shorter than you think. Give him a good send off which he deserves.
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Sorry for your loss. I went through that with my best friend/bandmate and it's tough. You'll do great though, don't overthink, just go with the flow. Godspeed.
 

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I eulogized both my mom and dad - to keep it together I put myself in the frame of mind to help everyone there understand who they really were. I was rewarded after with a whole lot of "I didn't know that ..."
 

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So sorry to hear this. It does hit home. I don't want to hijack your thread, so I'll post something of what I have had to deal with the last week.

Ralph
 

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sorry to hear Dread. i am sure the eulogy will be beautiful and a great celebration of your friend's life.
 

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Tough to do Dread. Your love and sincerity will out last your words. He is honored to have you.
 

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Thanks for all your kind words. I shall have a pocket full of Kleenex just in case. I may have a calloused exterior but inside I'm just an old softie.
 

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Everyone in attendance will be on your side . . . whether you're cool & controlled, or if you feel choked up.

Good on you for doing this in your friend's memory.
 

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Well, I managed to get through my friend's eulogy yesterday without breaking down, however my voice did falter a couple of times and I had to dab my eyes with a Kleenex once. That's OK, but I'm glad I practiced my speech on my wife, because I pretty much cried all the way through it when I read it to her. Got most of that out of my system I guess.

Bruce was the quintessential guy who would do anything for anyone. He wasn't just a friend, he was also a confidant. I could tell him anything without fear of judgment, but also with the expectation of getting a fresh perspective and some wise counsel from him. Guys like that don't come into my life every day. We were friends for over 30 years.
 

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I'm glad it went well. I love words and their ability to convey our thoughts and feelings and as I'm sure you've noticed, don't hesitate to share what I'm thinking. But with all my verbosity I doubt I could do what you did, because I just lose it. Turn into a big, blubbering mess and can't get a word out. I guess a thought would be to record a video, and introduce the video in person, and then close. Congrats on doing the difficult thing. You're a good friend. (See? I'm tearing up here just writing this!! Ridiculous!!) :rolleyes:
 

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Not ridiculous, Tom - it just shows that you are a compassionate soul.
 

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I'm glad it went well. I love words and their ability to convey our thoughts and feelings and as I'm sure you've noticed, don't hesitate to share what I'm thinking. But with all my verbosity I doubt I could do what you did, because I just lose it. Turn into a big, blubbering mess and can't get a word out. I guess a thought would be to record a video, and introduce the video in person, and then close. Congrats on doing the difficult thing. You're a good friend. (See? I'm tearing up here just writing this!! Ridiculous!!) :rolleyes:

+1!
 
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